The Power of Health & Saying Goodbye to ‘Skinny’
It seems in our culture that being thin is a bit of a holy grail. This illusive prize that we will fight tooth and nail for. We will spend millions on it, punish ourselves in order to obtain it and allow it to possess our every meal and bite of food.
The beauty industry and weight loss industry is not necessarily focused on getting you healthy but on getting those important numbers on the scales to get smaller. I know for myself that when I was part of a diet club years ago we were encouraged to drink diet coke and add sweetener to our food as long as it meant the numbers went down. Some of us reached our goals, but not without our health and mind getting battered along the way.
Now of course there is nothing wrong with weighing yourself or having a set weight in mind – nothing at all. But if you want the weight loss to stick, if you want to feel great long term and experience wellness in your life the number on the scale cannot be a focus.
For most of my life I have been focused/obsessed with being 10 stone . Not sure why, its a nice round number I suppose? Or maybe it was one of those awful height chart things that told me it would be a good weight to be at 5ft8in. So for years I chased it, like child wildly chasing after an ice cream van (surely I was not the only child who did that?). Believing that life would be better and more peaceful once I attained this ‘number’. My inability to ever reach it constantly reminded me that I had failed, that I hadn’t quite made it and that I didn’t fit in with all those ‘skinny’ girls.
Up until a few years ago I was still primarily pursuing this holy grail of getting thin. Yes I did want health but really deep down, I wanted to be skinny. Then there came a change. I decided to do something scary and I let go. I surrendered all my desires to be like other people up to god . I surrendered by desire to be like someone else and have someone elses body and I choose to nourish the one I had. Health became my goal and I decided to trust my body to find its ideal weight , be it 11.5 stone or 9.5 stone.
It was from this place that I eventually decided to follow the GAPS diet, an eating plan focused on healing the body especially the gut, and my resolve was tested all over again. Most people on GAPS lose weight and get to their ideal weight where as for me I think I lost 1-2 lb at most. But I didn’t really care because I had a new mandate. I was focusing on nourishing, respecting and caring for the temple that is my body. Instead of bashing it and trying to force it into what I wanted, I decided to accept it as it was and help it flourish in its own way.
You see health and happiness is one of the greatest resources we can have. Dress size and weight can never compare to the power of vibrant health, to true beauty and confidence, to a body that is energised, to a mind that is accepting and to a soul who has found true peace. When we sell our happiness to getting thin (or getting curvy for those of you who struggle to put on weight) we sell our bodies, our minds and lives short. I believe god created each one of us for vibrant, world changing health, that we can wield as a weapon in our communities and families. To give up this invitation to possess such a powerful resource in order to chase numbers or social norms is foolishness. I know this now and it has taken me a while to get there but I share this with you in hope that you don’t take 10 years to start investing in one of the greatest resources you have available – your health and your happiness.
So how do you shift your focus? How do you let go of investing into the social skinny norms that fill your screens and choose to invest in something greater? Here are some tips:
- Acceptance. You may want to lose 3 stone and yes your health will definitly benefit from that, but if you can’t accept your body and being now you might not when you get to your ideal weight. Acceptance isn’t about perfection is about letting go and trusting that when god made you he did friggin awesome job.
- Invest in health. Take active steps to invest in your health even if weight loss is not the outcome. This may mean you start eating more natural fat (here is why) even if your terrified you will put on weight (you won’t) or it may be you start lifting weights even if it means the scale go up due to muscle gain.
- Be grateful. Each day to I *try* celebrate things in my life. The roof over my head, a new pair of pants I have just bought, eggs for lunch, my family or the fact that I got an organic chicken reduced in Asda (I am obviously very grateful for chicken at the moment?). Gratefulness prevents us striving and produces acceptance and joy.
I know this may seem airy fairy but health is so much more than the food we eat and the workouts we do. Our bodies and lives were created to be storehouses of abundant health and wellbeing. We are so much more than a dress size, a weight or an image. We are so much greater and more powerful than we think.
And you know what the amazing thing is, it is often when you let go that you get the thing you always wanted. Although I am still working on some health issues, I am at my slimmest now and I imagine pretty near 10 stone (although I don’t weigh myself so have no idea) and it is effortless, because it is not my master simply a logical outcome health.
(If this has hit a chord with you and you have realised you have been pursing the wrong thing all these years and you want to get off the dieting yo-yo train, then get you beautiful butt over to my Flourish eCourse, where yes you will lose weight if you need to, but only as a effortless outcome of pursing one of life’s greatest resources – health. Its starts 10th October and is going to be super fun! Click here to sign up)
I love this quote so I will leave it with you:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. Marianne Williamson
Have you been on the skinny train? How have you learnt to accept your body?